When you aren’t winning…learn to start winning again

In public school everything was a breeze, my school sent me to a different school for 2 days because it had a “gifted” program.  I was actually super excited about going to it and trying it out…until…in the class there was a kid that used to go to my school and he was the one that got picked on at this new school.  The kid wouldn’t leave me and my buddy alone at recess and lunch.  It was annoying… cause I was one of the cool kids at my school.

On top of that…it seemed the kids in the gifted class were geeks.  At least to me they were.  So, when I got home I just told my mom that I didn’t want to go to the gifted program at the other school.

I returned to my school and was happy as shit to be there.  With my friends…havin fun.

At the end of grade 8, I was slotted to receive 3 awards… if I remember correctly they were sportsmanship, highest grades, and I cant remember the third one.  However, when my home room teacher read out the grades for the french subject, I only had something like a 63, however it was the highest of the boys in french so I celebrated winning….however my teacher did think it was appropriate to celebrate a 63 so she blocked me from getting the highest grade award for boys.

I suppose she was trying to punish me or teach me a lesson or something, but even now, more than 20 years later I can still say that it was a lame ass move on her part.  She could have easily talked to me about it, as would be expected from adults…however she hit me below the belt…even still I laughed it off… cause really it just showed her weakness and my power to influence her….cause it was just lame (I think I have said that enough now lol).

Anyhow, I got the highest grade of boys… but it was easy for me.  I was always the top or one of the top boys in sports as well… I was a natural.

Then high school came and it was easy too.  I didn’t work at it much and passed everything easily except english class, cause I just hated it.

Then on to my part time job I started at 16, it turned into a full time job at 19 and then I ran the joint at 22.  I made my own schedule, had a staff of 35 and was more or less just cruising along in the position at the time.

All of these things were relatively easy for me.  I just set my goal and did it.  I got what I wanted.

Later I started 2 small businesses, made money and was cruising along again.  I remember putting my feet up on the coffee table at home at 2:30 pm on Fridays and drinking a rye and coke and thinking THIS IS GOOD.

So all that was great.  Fast forward a few years… i got married, bought my second house, was running 2 businesses (and a full time job at one point).  I had a son as well.

And I started working 8am to 8pm 7 days a week, cause I loved it.  I was drinking a lot of coffee in the morning and drinking at least a 2L bottle of coke each day.  I remember when it was like a super big deal if there was not a full 2L of coke in the fridge in the morning lol.

Anyhow it was all good…for a while… then I got divorced… was kinda pissed about it and said screw it all and moved to another city.  My thought then was that I would just start something new and carry on.

However, in the years after that, I found that I got stuck working for some stressed out people in businesses that were not fun at all.  It was not anything like my previous part time job…which I ended up loving…that turned into me running the thing.

Then I worked with some other business owners, as an employee at one point and as a consultant with a bunch of other business owners.  All I found is that they were are all super stressed out… pretty much all the time.  I suppose, they were like me when I was working 8am to 8pm 7 days a week lol.

So, I have learned that if you want a regular job that you might end up loving…work for a big huge company…. and if they are trailblazing by providing a new product or service that is hugely in demand…even better.  Everyone will be happy, cause the owner(s) will be happy as the money is rolling in.

It is the strangest thing to think that some business owners will be very tough on an employee and expect them to turn around a be super happy serving a customer.  However, I have to admit I have done this a few times when I wasn’t in the best state of mind.  However I have matured and don’t do that no more.

Anyhow, my point here is that for the longest time, I was winning with work… and very easily.  And I have come to realize that the biggest contributor to it was that I did so when I was in a big huge company or even a school.  Cause…its just very different that working for a small company or even the individual business owner when they aren’t making money or even worse when they are in a huge amount of debt and trying to make it out.  And I am just the same, I have done the going up and the going down as well.

So, after myself doing the winning and loosing…I have drawn the conclusion that when you are loosing you just have to learn to start winning again.  There are a whole lotta options to turn it around.  Some are not so pretty…but I am certain there is always a way.  We just have to be wise enough to choose the right way and not get stuck in the death spiral of loosing for too long as there is a risk of it getting way worse.

The inspiration for this post really came from reading the book 

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