Now that I have finished the 7 habits of highly effective people

Miguel Constantin Montes I learned a lot about the framework of the 7 habits of success and I think it is amazing.

The book is well written and gave me a lot to think about and to put into my life.  I also saw some of the areas where I could improve and others around me.  I highly recommend this book.

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I am so happy I read this book

Pixabay I have read quite a few books and watched a lot of videos about business and self improvement.  The latest book I purchased is .

And essentially, I am searching for some answers or some guidance in some of the things I have come across in life.

One of the questions I have had is why it is so hard to get small business owners working together.  I have set up business owners to meet and essentially be able to feed each other customers by cross or joint marketing and when they sit down together there usually seems to be a bit of tension about who is going to get what parts of the deal, and how each other makes money off of it.

I have come to realize that each business owner is going to see the entire deal in a totally different way.  And that itself is a hurdle to jump over.  It seems that it takes a lot of communication and patience to get the ball rolling on these types of things and starting with small deals is the best way to go…then after a bunch of small deals that have worked out they can build up to bigger ones…or as their businesses grow the small deals just turn into bigger deals.

With all that said, I don’t even think that most business owners think that way.  I certainly didn’t for a long time lol, so why would I assume they did as well.  So this has come to something that I feel I need to discuss in more detail with each business owner as a kinda of prep or just as good communication.

The next part is that many business owners might not keep in mind the concept of people will blatantly reject a deal if they see the other person getting more than 70 % of the benefit.  This has been tested in some studies (sorry I don’t remember what the studies were called or who did them).   This is something I keep in mind and have learned I need to communicate this to business owners as well.

The reason for that is I noticed the business owners would often seem to get really upset when it got done to the price of the deal and who gets what, at first I thought it was a negotiation tactic they were using to try to get a better deal but I later realized it was an honest upset reaction to a perception of not getting enough of the deal.

Now that I am reading , the author sheds some like back onto the issue in the sense of how to get people to cooperate.  He talks about dealing with a business owner who was trying to get a bunch of his employees to cooperate with each other while rewarding just the one that finished first…obviously this wouldn’t work, and didn’t work for the business owner.

With that in mind I have learned to look at the deal myself to see what I think is a 50/50 deal as an outsider and also to get each business owners perspective on what a 50/50 deal is for them.  Then I am able to see how far apart each owner is, how much time it might take to get them to agree on terms or if they are even close enough to be able to make a good deal.

Then, with that I also want to be able to effective communicate a vision of how being a business owner and being an interdependent business fully integrated with other interdependent business owners creates the ability to have exponential growth that is very powerful.   In other words, by the two owners working together they get way way more than they put into it…but they might not always be able to see that at first.

The book, also highlights the stages people go through to get to the level of interdependent and this has been very helpful to me, as now I can better assess which stage a person is at when I am talking to them and determine if they are ready to become interdependent when it comes to making a deal.

This book has been fascinating me.

Habit 3 Putting 1 and 2 together

In the book there are 7 habits to learn (obviously lol).  The first three are about private habits.  And once you have read through habit 1 and 2, the 3rd habit is about putting them together and actualizing them.

As the book describes is about power of will in leading, then managing oneself.  I particularily like that the statement he makes…

Manage from the left, lead from the right

I have been told that I am highly intuitive and this is a right brain function.  For me the challenge is managing myself as I don’t like to do things methodically or do the same thing every day.

This is a personal challenge I will have to over come.  I heard somewhere else that it is a good idea to do 3 hours of chores a day.  That to me means, do the managing oneself for 3 hours a day max…otherwise I will go insane cause I like to be creative and engage with people.  Its fun and fills me with energy.

I also like getting sales daily, cause it gives me a bit of a rush and then I just want to get more sales.  It also sort of validates the work I have to prove that it is working.  It’s a great feeling.

Also, its about being able to make a commitment to oneself to act.  Otherwise we are acted upon…essentially giving up our own will.

And, going being that…its about putting first things first.  With this in mind, E.M. Gray says he found that successful people do the things that unsuccessful people don’t want to do.  They still don’t like doing it, but they do it anyway.

Then, getting into time management or really personal management.  Where do you spend most of your time?  Find out how to best spend your time in this book.  It is quite fascinating.

Success Habit 2 – The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People


energepic.comIn running my own businesses I sort of got into a certain groove where I was easily taking on customers and sales were increasing.  Sometimes I would end of working 7 days a week and other times I would work 20 hours a week.  In all this time I didn’t really get the sense of satisfaction of arriving somewhere, it seemed I was always preoccupied with getting more customers.  And at the same time I was managing my businesses.  At some points I had a few going at the same time.

While reading the book it was already provided me with a mental framework for creating businesses and reminded me about following good principles for long term success.

And, while in my own business I would sometimes feel like I was doing a lot of different things…I probably could have used some guidance to make it a little easier and even to help with a growth plan.

In my cleaning business we had more than 100 customers a few staff and my partner all working 5 days a week.  I would end up managing the business and squeezing in time to do more marketing when I could.  I didn’t enjoy managing the business because I wanted to spend more time making it bigger.

There became some struggles when my partner was probably a little bored with cleaning and managing staff and didn’t have the management skills to be able to make her own job easier.

The challenge it seemed was to train my partner on management skills and at the same time be able to focus on making the business bigger.

So, in the book it explains a framework whereas management and leadership are two different things.  And that other business owners have struggled with the same thing.  As well, in my working with other business owners I have also noticed this struggle as well.  Many of them are trying to be the managers of their businesses and at the same time be the leaders of the business.  This creates a sort of dual focus, where managing the business can quickly become a full time job in itself and leave little time for focusing on leadership.

When I was running a restaurant, after a few years I had all the staff trained and performing well and literally only had 30 minutes of work to do each day and then I was bored.  However, the benefit at the restaurant was that it was part of a large corporation where I didn’t have to do any of the leadership of the company as a whole…none of the marketing, financial planning, product planning or anything that was handled by the head office.  In contrast, the small business owner has to consider a lot of things and typically do a 100 different “head office” type roles which is a feat all by itself.

So starting a business out, it is important to start on doing parts of some of the roles in the beginning and gradually build up to having a team of 30 people that can take on the 100 roles required in a large business.

Going from 0 employees to 30 employees is a huge thing, quite the learning curve for someone doing it for the first time, however many have done just that and built million dollar companies in the process.

I have learned a lot, made a lot of mistakes and continue to move forward, however I have learned that reading books about this stuff leads to a huge improvement in success.  Especially with the , essentially breaking down the process or the path that is required to achieve great things in 7 habits.

The first 3 habits are about inside stuff and the second 3 habits about about outside, and the 7th habit is about rejuvenating.  I have gone through one burnout in my life and could have learned the rejuvenating lesson earlier, which my have got me to avoid burning out.

I used to work hard and play hard and essentially burn the candle at both ends.  Now I seek to have a better balance.

The second habit is about the difference between managing and leading and what each role really entails to do it properly.

More about golden eggs

I am reading a book and it says its important to share what you have learned with others right away.  It’s part of a process that changes ones perspective on things when they do it.  Apparently it changes from a negative thing to a positive thing, cause as you share it people like it and want to work/do more with ya and they might even get into the same book you are reading as well.

So here goes…

One of the main ideas with the book, (affiliate link, if you purchase the book from this link you will be helping to support this blog)  is about principles.  And the first principle is about a goose.

There is a farmer who has a goose and one day he noticed the goose has laid a golden egg.  When he sees it at first, he doesn’t believe it, he thinks it might be a trick.  So he takes the golden egg to get valuated, and sure enough it confirms the egg is in fact gold and worth money.

Then, the next day, the farmer notices there is a nothing golden egg layed by the goose.  And this keeps happening.  The farmer starts to get used to getting a golden egg every day…and then he starts to want more.

So he decides to chop open the goose to get the eggs that he thinks must be inside, only to discover there are no golden eggs in the goose.

What a story, to me I have learned a lot from it.  And its such a simple way to communicate something to someone.