People do not resist this

Its a Sunday in London Ontario and I am taking a day to myself to get myself organized for the week and also tend to my goose, which will lay golden eggs.  ( reference lol) btw that is an affiliate link.

After reading the 7 habits book I was most struck by the story about the goose and the golden eggs.  In that essentially if you kill the goose to try and get more golden eggs, you end up getting no eggs at all.

It seems that so many people do this, myself included.  It can be hard to change a habit of not trying to get more out of something in the moment and relax into knowing you will have more the next day and even over the years to come if you take care of the goose instead of destroying it.

So here I am, sitting on my couch, and working on one of my geese (which happens to be this blog).  I admit that at first it was hard to get back into after leaving website stuff for a couple years…but now that I am back into it for a few months it gets easier and easier to sit down and write a blog post.

The other difficult part of blogging is getting used to putting yourself out there because what people will think of what you say can be a scary thing.  This seems to be one of the lessons of growing up… walk into your fears.  It seems like it will actually set me free.  And we all want to live a free life…just achieving it is a scary process, especially if you are going it alone, starting your own business and being responsible for a public win or a public failure.

After going through some amazing times of high achievement (at least for myself at the time) and then taking some pretty big hits and getting knocked down hard, I was sent into pondering and reflection mode for quite some time.  Usually I can easily get back up after a hit and learn the lesson and get back on the horse very quickly.  But the last time was a hit that I had not felt before and a lot of stuff was gone from life in one day.  I had a hard time with it…I was burnt out when it happened which was part of the recipe for a challenging time.

Now that I have gotten through most of the difficulties I am slowly getting back on track and building geese, one at a time.  Starting over was not easy but it is the way back to getting what I want.

During some of that time I had a few people trying to change me and I was trying to change a few people as well… cause we all thought it would help.  But after reflecting on it all I started to realize that you can’t change people (i think i knew this, but didn’t want to accept it actually).

I learned from this about changing people:

People do not resist change, they resist being changed. David Loney

People do not resist change, they resist being changed.

David Loney

Is it possible to change other people?

No one can persuade another to change.  Each of us guards a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside.  We can not open the gate of another, either by argument or emotional appeal. – Marilyn Ferguson