The 5 Steps To Success

I am reading Ray Dalio’s book and am thankful to find a book with well laid out processes for various principles in life…hence the name of the book is Principles.

Once of the principles he talks about in his book is the 5 Steps to Success.  I myself have had some great successes, both short and long term and also had some great failures.  I have spent some time looking back at them both and wondered what exactly it was that made one success and the other great.  Sometimes, basically setting a goal and then getting there no matter what was enough….one of the longest goals I set for myself took 4 years to achieve.  It was absolutely an amazing feeling when I achieved the goal.  It is one of the best things on my track record of success.

Once I achieve that goal, I essentially set a new one and did it in about 1.5 years.  And that was very rewarding as well.  It was one of those things that I knew I could do better then the people I have seen do it, so I decided to do it and did it very well.

Then, on the other hand, I have had some big failures, even on things I have worked at for years.  I have reflected on these and have come up with a few things I could have done differently and it would have worked out differently.  In other words, I could have succeeded, but I let the obstacle get in the way and didn’t figure out or take the time to figure out how to remove the obstacle, or what the next thing to do would be to keep things going in the right direction.

So, for me, reading this book about principles and learning Ray Dalio’s process for success helps, because it seems like it is a process he has refined over many years and used to deal with many challenges.  The more I think about it I realize that many parts of it are very similar to teachings by Tony Robbins, and others.  However the step by step part of it is unique to me and I am going to use it as a process for starting on new challenges and on working through the new challenges as well.

The steps are:

  1.  Set Clear Goals
  2. Identify and Don’t Tolerate Problems
  3. Diagnose the Problem to the Root Causes
  4. Design a Plan for Eliminating Problems
  5. Do What Is Set Out in the Plan

This type of stuff I have seen many business owners use and myself included, more on a being creative to solve an issue and move forward level.  Which essentially fits in with all the steps.  That being, a company sets out a goal and then starts on the path to achieving it.

I suppose the list of 5 steps might seem simplistic, however sometimes big things happen and emotions run high and it is easy to make a quick decision then days later realize it was not the best decision to make.

The book goes into good detail about each step and is very usefull in providing essentially a thinking process about how to best move through eat step and get the best result.

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Principles - Ray Dalio

3 out of 4 people you meet are hungering for this one thing!

I am a big fan of Dale Carnegie… and I have to admit, me just saying that has made me think about how I don’t like it when people are “fans” of some things.  So, I am going to rationalize this thing as being a fan of something good is good and being a fan of something not good is not good.

Anyhow, back to Dale Carnegie.  I have a friend with a business and sometimes I irritates me a bit that he seems to have sympathy for somethings where I don’t think he should.  It seems like it holds him back from achieving a business goal or life goal some times.  When this negative feeling comes up for me in those situations I was tending to think what he was doing is not what needs to be done…but I know I have to reflect on it more, cause maybe it was just me wanting some sympathy and seeing it given to someone else made me jealous lol.  Only really after reading the Dale Carnegie book and coming accross a certain sentence in the book have I admitted that I was wrong in my thinking on my buddy having to much sympathy.  And now I even realize that I probably love sympathy!  wow.  I finally admit it.  Apparently this is a pretty common thing to love sympathy cause even in the book, How to win friends and influence people  (affiliate link, if you buy this book, you will be supporting this blog) Dale Carnegie says “three fourths of the people you will ever meet are hungering and thirsting for sympathy.  Give it to them and they will love you.”

Being as I have a lot of respect for Dale Carnegie, because of reading his book, watching his videos, and from mentions by very successful people the two sentences above speak to me very load and clearly.

And this helps me to figure out what was going one when I have seen people not want to give someone sympathy, they reacted to the person expressing a need for it as an act of weakness.  However, as I have learned, vulnerability is power, so maybe the people that didn’t want to give sympathy didn’t feel loved, didn’t know how to love, or needed sympathy themselves, or maybe they just felt helpless at the time.  It seems to me, that it was something like that anyway.

So I guess I will have sympathy for the person that can not give sympathy as well and hopefully (fingers crossed) the would be a good way of leading them into a better way of doing things.  And I have to admit, I was not much better myself when I didn’t like my buddy giving someone else sympathy cause I probably just wanted it myself too lol.

This has become a good lesson for me, and I look forward to being more sympathetic in the future, and see what happens from it!

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The 80 Twenty Rules and Thinking Fast and Slow

Yesterday I watched a Tai Lopez youtube video and he was at some amusement park and a random guy started talking to him.  Near the end of their conversation the guy mentioned he was reading a book call Think Fast and Slow.  Tai also highly recommended it so I took a look and found a bunch of videos on youtube about the book and the author.

So here is a video of a google talk the author did:

Its kind of interesting and this dude has one a nobel prize… and he is a psychologist but one a nobel prize in economics.  To me, that means this dude is on to something.  And I suppose that some dude that has one a nobel prize in economics might write a good book.

I haven’t read the book yet…but it is likely to be the next one I read.

 

 

The 50th Law – Robert Greene

I have recently been turned on to Robert Greene as he has an interesting story and how his book the 48 laws of power came about intrigued me.  And, who ever thought this would happen, be partnered with 50 cent to write the 50th law.

Here is a slick video about the book: